Being the Best Version of You

Thinking back to freshman year I can remember all the numerous opportunities I had to not be the best version of myself. Opportunities involving drinking too much, hanging out with the people who were discouraging, or even in the manner I presented myself to others (being a jerk to other girls, etc.). Like high school, college is filled with influences that will persuade one to not be the best version of oneself. Influences that will take the best of someone away and make them into a person they don't want to be.

Among all these persuasions and influences, it is important to always strive to be the best version of yourself. Imagine with me for a minute – Picture all of your best characteristics (ex: kind, thoughtful, loyal), what really makes you, you. Now picture all of the people in your life who are most important to you. Now picture what is most important to you? Do you have a big picture in mind? Can you start to see the core of who you are?

It is extremely cliché, but I'm going to say it anyway... stay true to who you are. There are always going to be people who are going to try to get you do to stuff that you might not be comfortable with or that doesn't fit with who you are. When you are faced with these occasions ask yourself, "am I being me? Or am I being someone who they want me to be?"

It is okay to say no. If you don't want to go to that party or hangout with certain people, you can say no. It's okay to say no; you don't want to look back in 5, 10, 20 years and think, "Why did I let myself do that?" Make choices that you will be proud of rather than sad about.

Surround yourself with friends who make you want to be a better person, people that challenge and encourage you. We often start acting like the people we surround ourselves with. If you hang out with people who make good choices, you'll reflect that.

Your college career can be a time where you are satisfied with how you acted and who you were; or it can be a time when you act in ways inconsistent with who you are. When you are faced with a tricky or compromising situation, make sure you ask yourself - once everything is said and done will you be proud of the decision you made and does it reliably represents the best version of you.

If you have any questions are comments please contact someone from Relationship IQ. We'd love to help you find the best version of yourself.

-Your friends at rIQ.

Written by: Shaina Kohli, rIQ Intern 2012-2013, Pepperdine University class of 2013