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How to Turn a Crush into a Date

You've got a crush. Admit it, the only reason you go to your Freshman level 101 class that doesn't take attendance is for that one chance to see him or her across the classroom. You know his or her name and maybe you know what dorm he or she is in, but you want to know more. You'd give anything just to go on a date with him or her.... Okay... so do it. You know you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Who knows what might happen? Just keep these things in mind:

1. First know that IT IS OKAY TO ASK SOMEONE OUT ON A DATE, yes even at Pepperdine. Contrary to popular belief (and to what upperclassmen tell you), Pepperdine students do want to date and not every girl is here for their M.R.S. degree.

2. Just because you ask them out DOES NOT mean you two are exclusive or automatically on your way to a Ring by Spring. Dating is a way to just find out your interests: to see what you like in your potential future boyfriend or girlfriend and maybe eventually your future spouse.

3. Avoid texting instead of talking. Yes, it might be easier to text your crush and ask them out, but it means a whole lot more if you talk to them face to face. It says that you are confident and actually interested in talking with them. It could make all the difference.

4. When you ask out him or her, make sure both of you are on the same page. Make known your intentions. It is more than okay to say, "Hey, I would like to take you on a date." rather than, "Hey, we should hang out some time." WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?! Avoid ambiguity.

5. Be creative with your date ideas, a wise man named Nathan Fuller once wrote that coffee dates are overrated and LAME. We live in one of the most entertaining areas in the world, (I might be biased), take advantage of the Los Angeles area. Don't have a car? Alumni Park is pretty awesome for picnic dates or just explore our campus- great for hiking.

6. Group outings. It's always fun and relieves pressure from both of you if you invite them to go out with a group friends. Just make sure both of you are on the same page about it being a date.

Hopefully this gave you the confidence to stop staring and start asking your crush out. Remember the 6 outlined tips and you'll be as cool as a cucumber. Remember you can always come talk about your crush to someone from Relationship IQ. Now go get 'em Tiger!

-From your friends here at rIQ

Written by: Shaina Kohli, rIQ Intern 2012, Pepperdine University class of 2013